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Helpful Interventions & Coping Skills

Coping Skills List  
 

Building coping skills is useful and we know these work! Not all of these may be appropriate for every child or situation. Some are specific to releasing anger or getting feelings out, others for anxiety or safety issues, and some for physical aggression and self-harm. If you don’t know which technique(s) to choose, ask a trusted adult or a professional to help you.

Some of these, you may already be using. Challenge yourself to try a new coping skill each week and see what else can work for you! 

 

 

Coping Skills List


Building coping skills is useful and we know these work! Not all of these may be appropriate
for every child or situation. Some are specific to releasing anger or getting feelings out, others
for anxiety or safety issues, and some for physical aggression and self-harm. If you don’t know
which technique(s) to choose, ask a trusted adult or a professional to help you.
Some of these, you may already be using.


Challenge yourself to try a new coping skill each week and see what else can work for you!


1. Talk to a trusted adult about it
2. Sit in quiet and safe place
3. Take a break by taking a hot bath or shower
4. Visualize your ‘best self’ and ask yourself what you would do in that mindset
5. Have some hot chocolate/tea/warm drink
6. Write it down, crumble it up, throw it away
7. Get outside, go for a walk while practicing mindfulness
8. Scream into a pillow
9. Punch a pillow, stuffed animal, bed (without injuring yourself or others)
10. Read. Spending a weekend day at the library can be very soothing
11. Take a nap
12. Do a video blog (don’t post it!)
13. Go for a hard run
14. Draw
15. Talk to friend (when allowed i.e. not during class, w/o permission, etc)
16. Listen to the ocean (Rub hands together quickly then place over ears, listen for an
ocean sound, or use an app, website, audio clip of ocean and practice deep calming breaths
17. Get an ice cold drink of water
18. Watch “funny animal videos” on YouTube
19. Listen to an audio book or podcast to distract you
20. Listen to music
21. Wash your face with very cold or with warm water for a temperature change
22. Cuddle with a pet
23. Take 15 deep breaths and say an affirmation between each breath
24. Ignore or pretend to ignore a difficult situation for the moment and try not to think about
it until you know you can handle it better
25.Rip up paper (or a magazine, newspaper, or phone book)
26. Sing out loud in a safe space
27. Offer to help an elderly family member or neighbor to do some work with your hands like
yard work or cleaning
28. Play dough- squeeze it, smash it, pound it, etc.
29. Color
30. Hug a teddy bear
31. Clean your room/organize your drawers or closet
32. Stare at picture and make up story about it
33. Throw a deck of cards and pick up in order
34. Make a collage of your goals
35. Use a healthy excuse to remove yourself from the situation
36. Shadow box to hardcore music
37. Mentally recreate a favorite day, memory, or vacation
38. Positive self-talk – you can be your biggest cheerleader
39. Guided imagery or Progressive Muscle relaxation (you can find a great app for these, like
the Calm app)
40. Practice tensing a muscle for five seconds and then release it as you exhale. Repeat on
different muscles
41. Cry – go ahead, get it all out, don’t try to suppress it
42. Write a letter to your future self
43. Meditate (you can use an app for this too!)
44. Put on Footloose and try to copy the dance moves
45. Make up a rap/Write lyrics
46. Think of people who love you and text them a positive message
47. Get into a calm headspace. Picture yourself as a child. Have a loving conversation and hug
little you
48. Excuse yourself to the restroom and wash your hands for a couple of minutes while
calming yourself
49. Give yourself a face massage, a hand or foot massage, being mindful of pressure points
50. Go for a bike ride
51. Make a list of things/people you are grateful for
52. Put yourself in a mentally safe place and note everything you can about it…what it feels
like to be there, what it smells like, reminding yourself of the safety and peace of that place
(apps for this too)
53. Make silly faces in mirror or with another person to see who laughs first
54. Read the comics
55. Blow real or imaginary bubbles
56. Write a mad story
57. Do 60 seconds of jumping jacks, run in place for 60 seconds, do 60 seconds of push ups.
Repeat again and again until you’re calmer
58. Pray
59. Chose random object and name 30 different uses for it
60. Play the 5-4-3-2-1 game
a. Name 5 things you can see right now, 4 things you can feel right now, 3 things you can hear
right now, 2 things you can smell right now, and 1 good thing about yourself
61. YouTube Tai Chi and practice this
62. Turn off your phone for 24 hours, or make a Social Media ban for yourself for a while
63. Ask to go speak to your Wellness Specialist! If you can’t right now, construct an email, whether in your mind and send it later, or if you can, do it right then and send to
MHeim@pylusd.org

 

 

 

 

 

 

Good sleep is so important!!

Falling asleep and staying asleep, especially during stressful seasons, is a challenge that many face!

 

There are many strategies to help us wake up feeling rested and the following 8 are some favorites. Give them a try and see what works best for you.

 

1. Listen to a guided meditation before bed. 

We love doing a guided body scan to help our minds get out of thinking and into sleeping! (Insight Timer is a great free app that has lots of guided bedtime meditations to choose from.) There's also HeadSpace and Calm.

2. Do a calming Yin Yoga session. 

We find this helps us to feel “heavy” before bedtime. We’ve put together a PDF for you with photos and instructions for our favourite bedtime Yin Yoga poses.

Click here to download your free Yin Yoga and Aromatherapy for Sleep PDF


3. Rub lavender or cedarwood essential oil on the bottoms of your feet before bed. 

The scent helps your mind and body to relax and the chemical constituents of these oils reduce stress and anxiety in the body. You can learn more about what essential oils areand how they support emotional wellbeing on The Balanced Educator Podcast.


4. Keep a journal next to your bed. 

Often what stops us from falling asleep is our mind running through the things we’re worried about or don’t want to forget. Every night before going to sleep, write down everything that’s on your mind. Get it all out on the paper so that your brain knows it’s safe to stop thinking about it. Then, write down 5 things you’re grateful for. Gratitude helps reduce stress hormones and gets your body in a state where sleep is accessible.

5. Exercise daily, but don’t do vigorous activity a minimum of 4 hours before bed. 

Intense physical activity wakes your body up so it’s better for your sleep cycle to get your sweat on in the morning or afternoon.

6. No screens before bed! 

The light from phone and computer screens tricks your body into thinking it’s morning time so it doesn’t start producing the chemicals you need for sleep. Try putting all screens away at least 1 hour before bed.

7. Try cutting out caffeine. 

Everyone is different, so you’ll have to experiment. Does cutting out caffeine after 10 am help you to sleep better? 


8. Create a bedtime routine.

Most of our actions are unconscious, meaning that we follow a set of steps all day whether we notice it or not. Our brain is constantly going through “if this then that” steps. For example “if my alarm goes off, then I press snooze” if that is the routine we have created. If you can have a specific set of steps that lead to sleep your brain will go “I’ve brushed my teeth, then turned on my essential oil diffuser, that means it’s now time for sleep”.

Dive deeper into this topic by listening to the following episode of The Balanced Educator Podcast:
Episode 67. 8 Strategies for Better Sleep


Use this list as a set of tools you can choose from when the time is right. Experiment to see which strategies work best for you!!

 
 
 
 
Stress.
It makes your heart pound, your breathing quicken and your forehead sweat. But while stress has been made into a public health enemy, new research suggests that stress may only be bad for you if you believe that to be the case. Psychologist Kelly McGonigal urges us to see stress as a positive, and introduces us to an unsung mechanism for stress reduction: reaching out to others.
 
 
 
 
 
Tools for Your Mind
Anxiety happens in our mind. It’s a thought-driven emotion. Our
problem is that we sometimes keep those thoughts insight of us,
making the thoughts stronger or our body begins to react to
those thoughts.

“Write It Out”
In the midst of many emotions putting them on paper can be
very helpful. Go somewhere quiet and/or private, and write out
your fears, concerns, worries, and “worst case scenarios” that
you are playing in your mind. The goal is to get them out of you.
Then, you can do the following:
1) Tear it up as a metaphor to help you get passed those
emotions the moment
2) Keep them in a journal/box away from you.
This helps get those concerns out of your mind, on a piece of
paper, and then have the ability to “do” something with them.
 

“Thought Stopping”
What happens sometimes is we have a thought that leads to
another thought, and all of a sudden with have a train a thoughts
that producing anxiety. When you start having multiple thoughts
that are making you concerned, you tell yourself to stop. You
stop those thoughts, come back to the present, and get out of
your head.
Focus your mind not on what your mind is saying, but
on something in the present. It’s not to ignore the problem, but
it’s to stop the thought from making you anxious and unable to
deal with the problem.
 
Here are some thought stopping statements you can use:

Stop, I am not my behaviors.

I will not meditate on negative thoughts about myself.

This negative thought is not my truth. I choose to not let this be my truth.

I will choose to stay in the present; I will not worry about tomorrow.

This situation (person) has no control over my future or my behaviors.

I will not focus on what I can’t control.

Just do it. Stop over-analyzing.

Focus on the strengths. Focus on the positive.

Get it together. Take a deep breath. Focus.